Valentine's Day is right around the corner & hopefully this 'challenge' can help YOU grow with the way that you look at relationships, others & yourself!
(This 'challenge' is for people in relationships as well as single people.)
Do your best to complete each 'assignment' within 2 days then move on to the next one.
These may seem like pretty long posts, however we all spend countless hours doing meaningless things.
I know we can find or MAKE some time to complete the Love Shack series to make our lives & relationships better & stronger - going on the road towards what God has planned for us!
Be sure to have fun, as you learn & grow!
Money or work?
Looks or physical attraction?
If you are single, what have your past relationships been built on?
Do you think that those might be reasons why it didn't work out?
Attributes of true love
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking,it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.- I Corinthians 13:4-8 (NIV)
He who finds a wife finds what is good
and receives favor from the Lord.
- Proverbs 18:22 (NIV)
Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
- Proverbs 31:23 (NIV)
A good woman is hard to find,
and worth far more than diamonds.
Her husband trusts her without reserve,
and never has reason to regret it.
Never spiteful, she treats him generously
all her life long.
She shops around for the best yarns and cottons,
and enjoys knitting and sewing.
She’s like a trading ship that sails to faraway places
and brings back exotic surprises.
She’s up before dawn, preparing breakfast
for her family and organizing her day.
She looks over a field and buys it,
then, with money she’s put aside, plants a garden.
First thing in the morning, she dresses for work,
rolls up her sleeves, eager to get started.
She senses the worth of her work,
is in no hurry to call it quits for the day.
She’s skilled in the crafts of home and hearth,
diligent in homemaking.
She’s quick to assist anyone in need,
reaches out to help the poor.
She doesn’t worry about her family when it snows;
their winter clothes are all mended and ready to wear.
She makes her own clothing,
and dresses in colorful linens and silks.
Her husband is greatly respected
when he deliberates with the city fathers.
She designs gowns and sells them,
brings the sweaters she knits to the dress shops.
Her clothes are well-made and elegant,
and she always faces tomorrow with a smile.
When she speaks she has something worthwhile to say,
and she always says it kindly.
She keeps an eye on everyone in her household,
and keeps them all busy and productive.
Her children respect and bless her;
her husband joins in with words of praise:
“Many women have done wonderful things,
but you’ve outclassed them all!”
Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades.
The woman to be admired and praised
is the woman who lives in the Fear-of-God.
Give her everything she deserves!
Festoon her life with praises!
- Proverbs 31:10-31 (Message)
The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
Now the Lord God had formed out of the ground all the wild animals and all the birds in the sky. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name. So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds in the sky and all the wild animals.
But for Adam no suitable helper was found. So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.
The man said,
“This is now bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called ‘woman,’
for she was taken out of man.”
That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.
Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.
- Genesis 2:18-25
The Lord’s curse is on the house of the wicked,
but he blesses the home of the righteous.
- Proverbs 3:33
What is your relationship built on?
What is your foundation?
If single, what foundation was your last relationship built on?
BUILDING ON A SOLID FOUNDATION – RELATIONSHIPS AND MARRIAGE
By Confidance Zana
Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its FOUNDATION on the rock. But everyone who hears these words of mine and does not put them into practice is like a foolish man who built his house on sand. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell with a great crash - Matthew 7:24-27 (NIV).
...The foundation is the most important stage in raising a structure because in determines how strong and how high your building can go...
In this life we live they are three important aspects that define our life, your faith, your occupation and the person you marry. In all these aspects just like a building requires strong foundations for them to remain functional in your life and never collapse causing you pain and reproach...
A good relationship and marriage can bring so much happiness in life and the same time a broken relationship and failed marriage can cause so much trauma and pain. Whenever a relationship and marriage fails when you go back to check the foundations you will realize that it was founded on a base that is very weak. No matter how good and honest your intentions maybe but when something is not built on strong foundations it is bound to fall with a great crush.
In growing up I have noticed this tendency in both the Christian circles and also the circular world that the physical appearance of a person especially ladies plays a major role in determining how many guys comes after you. Ladies also would want to date the most handsome guy around. In as much as they is nothing evil about aspiring to date a beautiful lady or a handsome guy, a person who will make your heart melt but so many of us have fallen into the trap and ended up with wounds that are difficult to heal. This is a painful reality that happens in life, a beautiful lady is natural sort after by a lot of guys so this increased demand results in making someone easily move from one person to the other without any difficult thereby creating a lot of heartbreaks to those being left behind. I am not saying don’t date a handsome guy but what I am saying is before you are moved by the beauty check also the character and personality. The bible says ‘Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised”. - Proverbs 31:30 (NKJV)....
Strongly attached to the matter above is the issue of material things. Ladies nowadays want to date the richest and most successfully guy around. Whilst it is important to marry a guy with a vision someone who will be able to take good care of his family, let it not be the sole issue that moves your heart. I call it a weak foundation because in life seasons change, one season goes and the other one comes. If you loved a person because of their money what if one day they are broke and don’t have a cent. You will walk out of that marriage because what was holding you together is money and that money is no longer there. I have seen people that where dumped in life because they were perceived not to have anything but later on God remembered them and they turned out to be the most successfully people. Look beyond what someone has at that point.
Passion from the Latin verb patī meaning to suffer is a term applied to a very strong feeling about a person or thing. Passion is an intense emotion compelling feeling, enthusiasm, or desire for something. This is one area that is so confusing when it comes to relationships. We feel so great when we are passionate about someone and when the passion fades away we are quick to say I am no longer feeling the love. While passion is important and makes the relationship interesting it can never be a foundation especially for marriage. Marriage is lifetime commitment. Passion fades with time and when it dies away what will you be left with. Seek for compatibility and comfort in a relationship, those will never fade away. There are some who can find passion, comfort and compatibility, we thank God about that but it’s rare to find everything in most relationships.
Just like what the word of God says “Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its FOUNDATION on the rock.’’ It is so important to date and marry a person that has a life that is total surrendered to Christ. Someone who has submits to the authority of the word of God, someone who loves Jesus, someone who can be rebuked by the scripture. Storms of life are for sure to come but when you are both submitted to the word you will remain standing and your marriage will not crumble.
Seek to date a person who fears the Lord. Fearing God in the way that He is your Father & you don't want to do anything to disappoint your Father. They are so many people today who go to church and proclaim to be Christian but they are very few who fear the Lord. Someone who fears the Lord won’t lie to you, they won’t cheat on you, and they won’t break your heart. It may sound controversial but I believe lying to someone and making false promises and ultimately breaking someone’s heart is very ungodly and a child of God who fears the Lord should never do that.
Character and personality refers to the qualities and traits that make up a person. These are very important because thus what makes up an individual. A person’s character is not easily changed. A good character consists of trustworthiness, respect, responsibility, fairness and justice. Seek to date and marry a person with a good character. Good character is a rock. Storms of life may come and seasons may change but a good character will remain. Good character is to be praised more than outstanding talent. Most talents are, to an extent, a gift. Good character, by contrast, is not given to us. We have to build it, piece by piece by thought, choice, courage and determination. Bad character traits are seen in people that are arrogant, bad tempered, bossy, conceited, big headed, cruel, dangerous, deceitful, dishonest, dominant, emotionally and also people that are lazy.
The spirituality of a person refers to the spirit that is in operation in a person. I guess this is a bit deep to some people but will try to make it simple and less frightening. A person according to the word of God is a spirit that lives in a body and has a soul...Beyond the body of a person check the spiritual aspect as well. Check the spirit in operation in the person that you are dating. You can do this by prayer and fasting. Check also their attitude to prayer and the word of God.
Psalms 11:3 (NKJV)
No matter how much you love the Lord but when your marriage is in shambles you can’t go anywhere. It will always remain a snare in your life. Build your relationships and marriage on a solid foundation so that when the storms of life, your marriage will remain intact. The storms are for sure to come in each and every marriage. The difference will be on the foundation on which you have built your marriage on. May God bless so that you can built on a sure foundation which is Christ himself.
Taken from Talking About Christian Walk, Relationships, Love and Romance FB page. To read the whole article, CLICK HERE
God, we want the foundation of our relationship to be you. Help us to trust you, follow you, and obey you. Help us to put into practice the things we are learning about you. We’re expecting our relationship to grow throughout this series, In Jesus’ Name we pray – AMEN.
Thank you God for demonstrating what true love is all about. Help us to love each other the way you have loved us. We want to lay aside our own selfish wants and desires in order to truly love each other. In Jesus’ Name we pray – AMEN.
Men: God, thank you for this amazing woman you have placed in my life. I am grateful for her…her beauty, kindness, and love. Help me to meet her needs and love her the way you desire, In Jesus’ Name I pray – AMEN. Women: God, thank you for this incredible man you have placed in my life. I am grateful for him…for his leadership, strength, integrity, and love. Help me to meet his needs and love him the way you desire, In Jesus’ Name I pray – AMEN.
God, help us to honor you in our family…to make every decision with you as the foundation, to grow together as Christ Followers, and to have an impact for Your Kingdom. In Jesus’ Name we pray – AMEN.
God, we thank you for your blessing on our lives, our relationship, and our home(s). We will listen for your voice and do what you say. We want our relationship to honor you in every way. In Jesus’ Name we pray – AMEN.
God, we anticipate you to work in our lives and speak to us tomorrow as we worship together. Thank you for our church, for our pastor, and for your Word that will help us grow in our relationship with you and each other. In Jesus’ Name we pray – AMEN.
God, I want the foundation of my life to be you. Help me to trust you, follow you, and obey you. Help me to put into practice the things I am learning about you. I’m expecting you to prepare me for a God-honoring relationship throughout this series, In Jesus’ Name I pray – AMEN.
Thank you God for demonstrating what true love is all about. Prepare me to love others this way. Help me to lay aside my own selfish wants and desires as I wait for you to lead me to a new relationship. In Jesus’ Name I pray – AMEN.
God, thank you for the person you are preparing for me to be in relationship with one day. I thank you in advance for their qualities of kindness, confidence, integrity, and love. Help me to continue to grow in you as I become the kind of person you desire for me to be. In Jesus’ Name I pray – AMEN.
God, help me to honor you in my life…to make every decision with you as the foundation, to grow as a Christ follower, and to have an impact for Your Kingdom. In Jesus’ Name I pray – AMEN.
God, I thank you for your blessing on my life, my relationships, and my home. I will listen for your voice and do what you say. I want my life and my future relationships to honor you in every way. In Jesus’ Name I pray – AMEN.
God, I anticipate you to work in my life and to speak to me tomorrow as I worship. Thank you for my church, my pastor, and for your Word that will help me grow in my relationship with you and others. In Jesus’ Name I pray – AMEN.